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Guilt or Regret about Tubes Tied…

Is it PTLS or another medical or gynecologic problem?

The symptoms of Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome (PTLS) can be widespread and pervasive. Women who have problems after a tubal ligation, however, may not have PTLS. Another medical or gynecological condition may be at the root of the symptoms. The prior article in this series on PTLS reviewed medical and gynecologic disorders that may cause menstrual problems after a tubal ligation.

Over 7,000 tubal ligation reversals have been performed at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center. We have had the opportunity to see the impact on these women whose tubes have been tied and who, having regretted that decision, have had their tubes untied.

Under what circumstances were the tubes tied?

Often, the decision to have a one’s tubes tied is made under stressful circumstances. Sometimes the decision to have the tubes untied is made under similar circumstances. The staff of Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center has compiled a list of stressful reasons women have had tubal ligations or have come to us seeking ligation reversal. Stressful circumstances under which patients sometimes have a sterilization procedure or a sterilization reversal include:

• Forced by parent or spouse
• Pressured by doctor
• Frightened by medical conditions or illness
• Mid-life crises
• Empty nest syndrome
• Infidelity
• Divorce
• Death of spouse
• Fear of birth control risks
• Decision while in poverty
• Decision during period of substance abuse
• Illness/death of close family member
• Sterilization while in an abusive relationship
• Death of a child
• Religious conversion

Regret and guilt can be powerful forces on any individual. Given the appropriate stressful circumstances these feelings can be amplified and can spread into other aspects of ones life. When decisions are made under stressful conditions, as listed above, one can easily see how this may leave a lasting sense of remorse upon any individual. The sense of remorse can be even more dramatic when the thought is suppressed and eventually emerges in the future during a stressful life event. Then consider the sense of regret and how these feeling could be increased as a person grows older and wiser when a person finds their ‘life’s match’ or if their pastor tells them they ‘violated the will of God’ by having their ‘tubes tied’.

How common is regret after tubal sterilization?

Most women do not regret their decision to have a tubal ligation. However, 1 out of 4 women will regret their decision about having their tubes tied. This was shown in the CREST Study mentioned in a previous article.

Offering Hope at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center

The tubal ligation reversal experts at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center help women in reversing these ‘permanent’ decisions when they are no longer the right decisions for individuals and couples. We have helped many patients come by restoring the hope of new life and the chance for some to relieve their burdens of guilt and regret.

This is the fourth article of a fourteen part series on PTLS and associated medical conditions. The fifth article, Psychological Conditions or Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome?, will address common psychological conditions that could be masquerading as Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome.

Readers can also view patient submitted stories about their menstrual symptoms, reasons for reversing tubal ligation, and outcomes after reversal reversal surgery. Each patient’s story is listed below:

Meet Momzilla
Meet Andrea
Meet Rebecca
Meet Praybelieving
Meet Katherine

We invite readers to join the Tubal Reversal Message Board to discuss and share personal experiences with tubal ligation. We also invite women with post tubal ligation symptoms to join the PTLS Forum and share personal experiences with worsening physical or mental symptoms noticed after tubal ligation.

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79 thoughts on “Guilt or Regret about Tubes Tied…

  1. Dr. Monteith Post author

    Mz Hazell
    With tubal reversal you will have excellent chances of becoming pregnant. There is no ‘cheat’ or ‘free way’ to get your tubes untied.

  2. Mz Hazell

    l I got my tubes tied in 2007 it hurt me so bad I cry everytime someone said they prego I have all girl 4 of them.Is there a cheat or free way I can get then untied what is the possible of me get prego tied & clip plz give me your opinion thx you ladies .

  3. Dr. Monteith Post author

    Kelly
    Many patients will come to us for tubal reversal after all other causes have been ruled out. Of these women over 90% will report improvement in their symptoms.

  4. Kelly

    I am a 32 year old mother of 5. I had my tubes tied April of 2011 after baby number five. I am going on my fifth month of no periods, i have the worst acne, my back has been hurting since the day I came home from the hospital, I have hair loss, cant loose weight, and I am tired all the time. These are just a few of the worst symptoms I have been having since my tubal. Is this all in my head? Or could be the tubal? Is PTLS the cause of my feeling so out of wack and not myself? My doctors cant seem to give me a straight answer. And one Dr. just told me that I probably have POS and changing my diet would fix it.?? I really want to feel normal again.

  5. Deb

    I have a huge amount of regret over having my tubes tied. I am 38 and found out last December that we were pregnant with a “suprise” baby…#3 for us. Our other children are 14 and 10, and although we hadnt planned on more babies, we quickly became very excited to meet our new little one. It turns out that I had a very difficult pregnancy…there were complications with our little boy and my body was having a hard time with this pregnancy. He was born on June 9th, 2012, at 31 weeks. I made a rushed decision as I was being taken in for an emergency c-section to have my tubes tied. I had so much fear that my body could not handle another pregnancy. But I never dreamed that my sweet baby boy would pass away 3 days after his birth (he had a tumor on his liver that was not seen in any of the ultrasounds before his birth). The doctor exlained many reasons why the pregnancy was so difficult for me and that the issue with our baby was not something likely to repeat itself. Now I want to try for another baby SO badly…but I worry that my age may be a problem.

  6. Dr. Berger

    Denise – There is hope for you! At Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center, we repair burned tubes every day. You can get a copy of your operative report from the hospital where it was performed and fax it to us with your contact information and we will help you. Here is a link to a Medical Records Release Form that you can use.

  7. Dr. Monteith Post author

    Denise
    We have many patients who have one tube repaired and who will become pregnant. Please call (919) 968-4656 for assistance.

  8. Denise

    Is there any hope for me? I had a tubal pregnancy before my 2nd son. They of course had to cut that tube out. After my 2nd son, I decided to burn the 2nd tube. I don’t know if I have any hope of reversal or if it is really the end. Now I am wishing that I could go for #3. I didn’t think I would get depressed over this. My boys are now 8 and 10 and I really wish that I had tried for the girl. :(

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