My First Day at Nourishing Hopes and Dreams

My first day as a tubal ligation reversal specialist will always be remembered. I began my training with Dr. Berger during the first week of January 2008. We started the day off by meeting the patients who would be undergoing tubal ligation reversal at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center.

I met four patients of different ages, backgrounds, and ethnicities . They were all very different people who all desired the same thing: reversal of their tubal ligation.

• The first patient was in her forties, she had emigrated from Ethiopia, her last child was more than twelve years ago, and she desired a chance to have another child.
• The second patient was in her thirties and her previous husband had died unexpectedly. She had children but her fiancé did not have any children. Together, they desired a child.
• The third patient,in her late twenties, had two children and a tubal ligation. Several years later she subsequently found a new partner and he desired a child with her. So while he was deployed overseas, she came for a tubal ligation and a chance for a new future when he returned from his military deployment.
• The fourth patient was in her late twenties and had several children. When she and her partner were in their early twenties they were financially maxed out and she had her tubes tied as an act of desperation. Several years later, she and her husband subsequently became financially stable and they wanted another child. They considered IVF but decided that a reversal was a better option for them. We also learned of an extremely sad story from this patient. She had a friend who had a tubal ligation. This friend had all of her four children die overnight in a house fire. This friend desperately has hope for a future reversal of her tubal ligation and was hoping to obtain a tubal reversal in the future.

All of the tubal reversal surgeries went well that day. The patients all did well and had technically excellent tubotubal reanastamosis (tubal ligation reversal) procedures. They all recovered well and went home to pursue their quest to add to their families.

For as long as a live, I will never be able to forget these women, their partners and the stories they told. I can never forget their quest to add children to their lives. For them I hope they attain what they desire.

My first lesson as a Tubal Reversal Specialist was that no one can predict the future, but if you always look hard enough you can always find a way - and someone to help- to correct prior mistakes.

Tubal reversal information is plentiful on the internet, but not everything that you read is accurate or factual. Of the websites that provide information about tubal ligation reversal, the one from Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center is most complete and accurate. It describes the various types of tubal ligation procedures and the different tubal reversal procedures that can be used. If you are interested in learning about tubal reversal, spend some time looking at the different pages on this extensive site. There is a search box at the top of every page that can direct you to specific information about any issues relating to tubal ligation reversal. Take a look also through the many topics of information on the Tubal Reversal Blog.

Tubal Reversal Surgery

Tubal ligation reversal is usually considered to be a major operation, taking several hours and requiring a hospital stay of 1 to 5 days. Complete recovery is often described as taking 4 to 6 weeks. However, the tubal reversal procedure that Dr. Berger has developed is performed as outpatient surgery with no hospital stay required and with complete recovery generally within 5 to 10 days. Since hospitalization is not required, the cost of the tubal reversal procedure is reduced by half or two-thirds of the cost when performed in a hospital. Patients are more comfortable during their post operative recovery and are able to return to work and other normal activities much faster. A free video or DVD of Dr. Berger’s tubal reversal procedure is available on the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center website.

Risks of Tubal Reversal

As with any surgery, complications are always a possibility. Although rare, these may include bleeding, infection, damage to other organs, or complications of anesthesia. The most significant risk associated with tubal ligation reversal is the long term risk of having an ectopic pregnancy. This risk is increased from approximately 2% of pregnancies in the general population to approximately 10% after tubal reversal. Fortunately, the medical problem of a ruptured tubal pregnancy can be prevented by following an early pregnancy monitoring protocol that has been described by Dr. Berger and is recommended to all women after a tubal reversal procedure.

Alternative Treatment

Rather than “untying” their tubes, some women are advised to be treated by in vitro fertilization (IVF). However, IVF is more complicated and expensive, the pregnancy rate after IVF is not as high as after tubal reversal, and there is a very high incidence of multiple births (approximately 30%) after IVF. Further, there is concern about the possible long term effect of the use of potent hormones to stimulate the ovaries to produce many eggs (called “super-ovulation”) and the suspicion that it might increase the risk of ovarian cancer later in life.

Am I a Candidate for Tubal Reversal?

Although most women have been told that tubal ligation is permanent, in fact, the vast majority of tubal ligation procedures are reversible. The operative report from your tubal ligation will give a good indication if the procedure can be reversed. When there is any doubt about this, diagnostic laparoscopy can be performed to examine the fallopian tubes and then decide whether to proceed with the reversal operation.

Pregnancy Rates After Tubal Reversal

Pregnancy and birth rates after a tubal reversal are significantly better than after IVF. Neither procedure, however, can guarantee that pregnancy leading to birth will occur. Even when the fallopian tubes have been repaired, other factors – such as age, menstrual cycle regularity, ovulation or other hormonal disorders, and the fertility of the male partner - may determine when, or whether, conception will occur.

Women under the age of 30 who have a tubal reversal have an 82% pregnancy success rate; between 30-34 the pregnancy rate is 76% and for women ages 35-39, the pregnancy rate is 67%. The pregnancy rate declines for women 40 and older in accordance with the natural decline in fertility with age. However, pregnancy rates are higher for women of any age following tubal reversal than after IVF.

More Tubal Reversal Information

If you would like to discuss your individual situation with a Tubal Reversal Nurse, call (919) 968-4656. The experienced nurses at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center are always happy to provide information about tubal ligation reversal. You can also exchange information with other women on the Tubal Reversal Message Board.

After my first meeting with Dr. Berger, I drove home and was ecstatic our conversation went so well. I did not know what to expect when I first visited the center but my visit was everything I could have hoped for. Immediately when I got home I told my wife about my experience. I had never told her about my previous dream so I also divulged to her my vision about my visit to Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center. She was amazed I even had such a dream because she is aware I am not a very superstitious person. To this day we still can not believe I had a dream foretelling the start of a new career.

Dr. Berger and I had several more meetings after our initial meeting. I was able to explain to him my career frustrations and my desire to become a tubal ligation reversal specialist. I was able to learn more about him, his background in infertility and in vitro fertilization, and his evolution towards becoming an exclusive provider of tubal ligation reversal surgery. Our meetings were productive and I became even more certain I wanted to become a specialist in tubal ligation reversal.

As I began to seriously consider transitioning to become a tubal ligation reversal specialist I began to realize several things about myself:

• As a physician I want to help people. I especially enjoy helping people obtain goals which are not easily available.
• I take enjoyment in doing surgeries other doctors are either afraid of or incapable of doing.
• I value letting patients make their own informed decisions. I have never felt the need to impose my beliefs upon other people. I rarely judge the decisions of others.
• I dislike hospitals. I feel they are unhealthy (for patients and doctors) and are loud, noisy places.
• I really enjoy working in outpatient, ambulatory surgery centers. I feel less confined than in the hospital environment.
• I like to be efficient. Being idle is extremely difficult for me.
• I can not take good care of others if I can not take good care of myself and family. Long nights, weekends, and poor medical outcomes began to gnaw away at one’s humanity and compassion.

It has been almost a year since I first met Dr. Berger and the staff at the Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center and started my path towards becoming a reversal specialist. I have realized many things about myself and my desires. I am eagerly looking forward to a career in helping women correct the misgivings of prior decisions.

After my dream of becoming a tubal reversal specialist, I emailed Dr. Berger to ask for his assistance in teaching me his techniques of outpatient tubal reversal microsurgery. I was a little reluctant to reach out and make contact but, as I previously mentioned, email is a great way to receive rejection.

When I received his return email I was afraid to open it. I thought I would click on the reply and read the typical - “Thanks for your interest but (fill in the blank) - we are not interested at this time.” Instead, I was astounded by his response. One line of his email is still vivid in my memory. The line read,

“I always thought one day I would be approached by the right person…..”

When I read this line in his email, I was ecstatic. I thought to myself, ‘Hey, that is me. I am the right person!’ I felt as is if I were a little high school boy who had his invitation to the prom accepted by the prettiest girl at school. These kinds of things never happen to me. I could not sleep well for several days because of my inner excitement.

The day came when I went to Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center for my first meeting with Dr. Berger. I was extremely tired because the night prior to our meeting had been a sleepless one since I had been on call in the hospital delivering babies.

I approached the building and entered through a passageway which led me into a courtyard. The first thing I remember was hearing the sound of a fountain echoing in the courtyard walls. It invoked a soothing feeling. The fountain was placed next to a set of stairs and was standing on a bed of small, rounded river rock. The stairs led up to the second level. I ascended the stairs to the second floor. I was extremely tired but I could not but help feel a sense of calmness within the courtyard. The experience brought back memories of being in church as a child. There was an overwhelming sense of peacefulness.

I entered the office and was seated by the receptionist. While I waited for Dr. Berger, I read through several of the photo albums in the waiting room. There were pictures of many tubal reversal babies and letters of thanks and encouragement. These photo albums seemed like the fruit of a fulfilling and successful career.

Dr. Berger came out to meet me and we went into his office and talked for about 45 minutes. I explained my desire to become a tubal ligation reversal specialist. He told me about his background and how he had come to specialize in tubal ligation reversal. His training, history, and career development were very interesting. I was especially interested in how he had evolved to solely provide such a specialized service. Although we were very different people, it became clear to me that we shared many common fundamental beliefs. Overall, I thought our meeting was very productive. At the conclusion, I shook his hand and thanked him for meeting with me. Since I knew he was busy (and I was tired) I expected to make a quick exit. As I was about to leave, Dr. Berger said, “Let me show you around.”

A strange feeling came over me. I quickly dismissed my strange feeling but readily took him up on the offer. He showed me the top office and waiting room. We then went outside, down the stairs, and past the fountain and decorative rocks. Again another strange feeling went through me- a sense of deja vu. He then showed me the break room with tables for eating, the operative rooms and the recovery room.

I was extremely impressed by two things. First, the entire place was absolutely the cleanest health care facility I had ever been in - I literally felt I could eat off the floor. Second, it was the quietest health care facility I had ever been in. I am used to noise, commotion, screaming, and yelling. I had never been in such a calm health care setting before.

At the conclusion of our tour, I shook his hand again and thanked him again for his time. I left and went to my car. As I started to put the keys into the ignition, I had to pause. I began to process what had happened. I began to investigate my sense of deja vu. I had been here before. I had seen this. I had done this before. It all began to come to me. This was the dream I had several weeks prior!

Then it all began to make sense. The two levels. The water and the fountain. The boulders. The table. The sense of happiness and calm……….these things never happen to me. I quickly suppressed these feelings. Why? I don’t know. I think I was afraid I was building this up to be more than it was or would ever be. I started the car and drove away.

Posted by Charles Monteith, MD

Divine Revelation and My Dream

A good idea, especially a really good idea, will make sense in every way. I began to analyze what a career as a tubal reversal specialist could mean for me. I could learn the surgical technique of tubal ligation reversal, which is gradually becoming a dying science and a lost art. In this process, I could help a large group of women regain both their fertility and wellness through tubal reversal. I could do all of the above and, at the same time, create a better, more fulfilling life for myself and my family. Once you examine all the angles and curves of a good idea and determine the piece fits perfectly within the puzzle of one’s life, then you begin to fill a sense of becoming more complete.

There was one problem. I had no way to credibly learn the techniques of tubal ligation reversal. I could apply for a fellowship in Reproductive Endocrinology (REI). This would mean three more years of training, mostly in In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and I probably would not get any tubal ligation reversal surgical experience. A close friend of mine recently finished a fellowship in REI and he had done many rounds of IVF but only three tubal ligation reversals over three years time- that’s one per year! He now is a reproductive endocrinologist who expected to adequately counsel patients about reversal surgery and perform these surgeries on patients. Many patients wonder why their REI doctors advise IVF and not tubal ligation reversal. I quickly determined returning for a REI fellowship was not a good idea for me for many different reasons.

I put my idea of becoming a tubal ligation reversal specialist to rest for several weeks. My idea was never fully resting and was still evolving in the background of my mind. It still would not let me go.

What I am going to share next you will probably never hear from me again. Most people reading this have little idea who I am. I am not a superstitious person, nor am I an overly religious person. I can not explain what happened to me next in any way other than divine revelation.

I rarely remember my dreams; however, this one I will never forget. I went to bed thinking about a career in tubal ligation reversal and I had a dream which, I now realize, would foretell my future………

In my dream I met an older, somewhat chubby man with grayish hair. He was slightly balding and seemed content. He greeted me in front of his building which was partly his home and partly his office. He appeared proud of his creation. It was a two story building- split level. He took me on a tour. The top level appeared to be regular, albeit nice living quarters. The home was gorgeous and I don’t remember many details but I do remember a feeling of contentment and completeness. This gentleman then took me outside of the top level and down and across a courtyard. I remember several large boulders and a fountain with water. We crossed over the courtyard and entered the bottom level of the building which was large and appeared like a wine cellar cave. There was a large, rectangular wooden table with candlelight. A large group of people, approximately 10-20 people, were eating and appeared to be having a good time. I was not sure if they were friends or family but they seemed to all be getting along well. They looked up, acknowledged me, but kept on with their festivities………

The dream then came to and end. This was it, I had to leave, and this is what I vaguely remembered the next morning when I awoke.

Again, I am not much for dream interpretation so the next morning I put this dream to rest and continued with my daily life.

Several days later I decided to contact Dr. Berger at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center. I called his office and asked for his email address. I was a little afraid to contact him but email is a good way to receive rejection.

I emailed him and his response floored me.

More to be continued……..

My path has taken me through four hard, long years of residency training- many days and nights in the hospital. My training can be summed up into two words- extreme exhaustion. As an attending physician, I had practiced high risk obstetrics and gynecology and had experienced many joyous and difficult moments. I have seen beautiful births and happy families, but I have also seen many seriously devastating events- one mother die and many babies die. The experience of many good things will lay over you like a warm blanket but the experience of any one, seriously bad event can deeply wound you. After ten years, the stressful events and long hours away from my growing children were beginning to take toll on me. I began to grow increasingly despondent. I began to feel both overwhelmed and unhappy.

Then a close friend was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer. Suddenly and within months, she was unable to work and was on a ventilator. Within two months she went from vibrant to not being able to hold a pen. She was a person I admired, looked up to and respected. She was a successful business woman and had influenced many lives by her work and her example. I was devastated and forced to reevaluate my path in life.

I found myself thinking, “You can work as hard as you want and be a successful as you can but it can all be taken away from you within moments- and without notice- and without any say from you.” It was then I decided I should do what I wanted to be happy and begin to work on a new formula that would redefine my personal sense of success. The only problem was I did not know what the formula would be.

During this same time, I had a chance encounter with a staff member of Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center. This was a totally random encounter that could have just as easily not occurred. During my training, I had periodically heard about Dr. Berger and his practice of tubal ligation reversal - but I never new much about the man and his practice. For ten years, I worked within twenty miles of Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center and had even referred patients to Dr. Berger but I really knew nothing about his work and his center.

During my brief conversations with the staff member, I was able to find out about the important work of tubal ligation reversal, the high quality of the tubal ligation reversal center, and that Dr. Berger was both an upstanding individual and a gentleman surgeon. I will admit these brief conversations were very interesting and amusing. They provided me information about a local doctor, whom I had heard about yet really new nothing about. These conversations were fun, but I really did not think any more about or discussions.

Good ideas are infectious. They get into your head and they will not leave. They eat at you until you deal with them. They stay with you and circulate in your head until you either act on them or let time gradually absolve them. This good idea was what happened to me after my chance encounter. This good idea was to think I could become a tubal ligation reversal physician.

I began to wonder if I could do tubal ligation reversals. I thought it could provide a new career path and a greater sense of personal fulfillment by helping others in need. This good idea began to breath life into me and it would not let me go……I had no idea of how much greater this idea would become and the divine revelation which I would later experience on my path to a career as a tubal ligation reversal specialist.

More to be continued……..

Women who are seeking the best tubal ligation reversal physicians come to Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center. It is the only medical practice or facility dedicated exclusively to repairing fallopian tubes after tubal ligations. Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center is widely recognized as the tubal reversal facility that has the best patient care and the highest documented pregnancy and birth rates, while offering low cost outpatient tubal reversals.

Tubal Reversal Physicians at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center

Our Medical Director, Dr. Gary Berger, has specialized in tubal reversals for 30 years. He is now in the process of training Dr. Charles Monteith as a tubal reversal physician. Dr. Monteith will join the practice in July 2008, at which time he will offer low cost tubal reversals of tubal ligation. During July and August 2008, a special discounted fee of $4900 will be available to patients who schedule their tubal reversal procedures with Dr. Monteith.

Dr. Charles Monteith graduated Summa Cum Laude from Xavier University and received his Medical Degree from the University of California at San Francisco. Following a Howard Hughes Research Fellowship in molecular biology, he completed his residency in obstetrics and gynecology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 2001. Since then he has been a Clinical Assistant Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the University of North Carolina Medical School. Dr. Monteith is board certified in obstetrics and gynecology and has extensive experience in laparoscopic surgery and high risk obstetrics.

Explaining his decision to join Dr. Berger in practice, Dr. Monteith says, “My interest in tubal ligation reversal comes from my love of outpatient surgery and the desire to learn skills which are becoming a dying art. My hope is to be able to continue to practice tubal reversal surgery and to keep it as an option for patients who have had prior tubal ligation and desire to become pregnant.”

Low Cost Reversals of Tubal Ligation

A special discounted fee of $4900 will be available to patients who schedule their tubal reversal procedures with Dr. Monteith for July and August 2008. If you have questions or would like further information about scheduling your tubal reversal procedure with Dr. Monteith, please contact Julia Smith, RN at (919) 656-8204.

Dr. Berger’s Comment

It is truly a pleasure to be working with Dr. Monteith, who has already established a reputation as an outstanding ob/gyn physician. By the time he completes his 6 month fellowship in tubal reversal surgery with me, he will be well qualified and certified as a Tubal Reversal Physician.

Women come from all over the world to Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center for tubal reversal surgery. It is natural, and appropriate, for them to ask what their chances will be for pregnancy after a tubal reversal procedure performed by Dr. Berger. This important question about the anticipated benefit should be asked of any doctor before undergoing elective surgery. When answering questions about pregnancy after tubal reversal, we provide detailed information including pregnancy rates and their supporting data.

What Is The Success of Tubal Reversal?

There is only one way this question can be answered, and it requires ongoing follow up with patients to learn the results of their tubal reversal procedures. At Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center, we take this task to heart. Our nurses contact patients repeatedly during the first year after their surgery. When a patient informs us of a new pregnancy, we ask her to complete a Pregnancy Report Form. From this information, we provide a summary on the Weekly Pregnancy Reports Forum. The Weekly Pregnancy Report lists the age, date of tubal reversal, date of positive pregnancy test, method of tubal ligation, and tubal lengths after tubal repair for each pregnant woman. Additional comments about these pregnancies are shown in the Pregnancy Announcements.

Our various pregnancy information forums allow people to see the results from tubal reversal surgery performed by Dr. Berger on an current basis. The reports are not “filtered” to show only successful pregnancies. They include information about miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies as well. We want people to be fully informed about all of the possible outcomes after tubal reversal. One of our missions at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center is to provide complete and accurate information about all aspects of tubal reversal surgery!

Pregnancy and Baby Testimonials

Some patients send us messages accompanied by photos after they have delivered their babies. These are spontaneous reports. Although we don’t ask patients to send us testimonials, we love receiving and reading them! They are added to the Testimonials section of our site for others to enjoy as well. Currently there are about 700 testimonial pages.

Testimonials Pages

When a patient sends us a birth announcement and photo to be added to Pregnancy and Baby Testimonials, we update an index page so that there is a link at the top of the page to the newest baby testimonial. The index page is what visitors see first when they click on any link to Testimonials. This page has brief quotes with a link to the full testimonial for each patient. We limit the index page to about 30 summaries. To see previous testimonial index pages, click the “Next” link at the bottom of the page. This will show the immediate prior group of testimonial quotes and links. Currently there are 48 testimonial index pages. To see a listing of all the testimonials, look at the Testimonials Site Map.

Our patients share so many different stories about their pregnancies and deliveries after their tubal reversal procedures. Most people don’t realize how many testimonials there are (689 as of January 13th, 2008. The testimonial number is shown in the “bread crumb” at the top left hand side of the page.) To protect patients’ privacy, only the first initial of the last name is shown. Many women include their email addresses and are happy to correspond with others about their experience here.

Pregnancy and Birth Statistics After Tubal Reversal

Since pregnancy and its outcome are the primary concerns of most women who come here for a reversal procedure, we do everything possible to obtain and report this information on an ongoing basis. This keeps us informed about the number of pregnancies and what their outcomes were after tubal reversal. It also allows us to answer questions and guide patients who are waiting to become pregnant. This takes the efforts of a dozen nurses each day, in addition to their care of patients who are preparing for and undergoing surgery. No other medical facility has undertaken this effort.

As a result of the efforts of our staff and patients, we are able to perform careful analysis and report accurate statistics regarding pregnancy rates and births rates after tubal reversal procedures performed by Dr. Berger. This is referred to as “evidence based medicine”. It is consistent with our mission, and is one of the many reasons why Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center has become known as the best place to have tubal reversal surgery.

Patients often ask when they should have a hysterosalpingogram (HSG) to see if their fallopian tubes are open after tubal reversal surgery.

When to Have an HSG

Wait for at least 6 to 12 months after a tubal reversal procedure for this test of tubal patency. An HSG carries a risk of infection and often does not give conclusive results. It is best to give yourself a chance to become pregnant rather than rushing to have an HSG. Most patients conceive within this time frame and will avoid the need for an unnecessary and possibly misleading or harmful procedure.

Preparing for an HSG

To avoid unnecessary risks, an HSG should be performed only after menstruation is over and before ovulation occurs. Having an HSG after the time of ovulation may interfere with a pregnancy - before a pregnancy test can detect that conception has occurred. To minimize the risk of infection, use a betadine vaginal douche the evening before and the morning of the scheduled procedure and ask your doctor for a prophylactic antibiotic prescription. 600 mg of ibuprofen taken one hour before the HSG will minimize its discomfort.

What to Look For in an HSG

You can ask to watch the results on the fluoroscopy screen while the dye is being injected into the uterus.

At first, the dye will fill the uterine cavity. It is essential that the dye actually enter the fallopian tubes up to the point where the anastomosis was performed. Often, this does not occur due to spasm of the sphincter between the uterus and tubes (shown by the arrows) or from mucus or calcium deposits in the proximal tubal segments.

If the dye passes through the anastomosis sites, the fallopian tubes are open. Most radiologists do not consider the x-ray to show tubal patency (openness) unless dye spills into the abdominal cavity. When this happens, the diagnosis of tubal patency is conclusive.

We often see x-rays where dye has passed through the tubal  anastomosis site, but has not yet spilled into the abdominal cavity. This is due to an insufficient amount of dye being injected into the tubes. The radiologist may mistakenly believe the tube is blocked when in reality it is open.

Send Your X-Rays To Me

In order to be certain about whether an HSG demonstrates tubal patency, tubal occlusion, or is inconclusive, please instruct the radiologist to send the x-ray films to me to interpret. Having documented the anatomy and measurements of the fallopian tube segments during tubal reversal surgery, I can compare the x-ray findings with each patient’s operative report. This allows me to give the most accurate interpretation of HSG results.

Dr. Berger’s Comment

Hysterosalpingography is a widely available procedure to examine tubal anatomy. Unfortunately, it is often performed or interpreted inaccurately. An HSG also has risks as well as discomfort and cost. It is best to wait for at least 6-12 months after a tubal reversal procedure to have an HSG. Most patients will become pregnant after tubal reversal within a year and can avoid the problems associated with HSGs. Preparing properly for an HSG and sending the x-ray images to me will minimize the risks and errors associated with a hysterosalpingram.

Exchanging Information About Tubal Reversal

The Tubal Reversal Message Board is provided by Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center to allow women to communicate with each other about tubal ligation reversal. Members of Dr. Berger’s staff also contribute their insights in the message posts. Here is an example of how members help and support each other on the message board in response to a post by a new member. There are many abbreviations members use in their posts. These are explained on our website page Message Board Abbreviations.

Hello, my name Heather Jo and I live in Southern Oregon. I am 28 and already have three great kids - Chris 14, Emily 7 and Bradley 5. I am getting married on 2/29/08 to my soon to be DH Justin (who has no children yet). I had my TL on 5/9/02 after the birth of my youngest son. I hope to have more babies after my TR, which we hope to have done by the end of summer 08. I look forward to being on here and having my questions answered.

Welcome Heather Jo! We look forward to seeing you in the future. Don’t hesitate to ask any questions.    Lori RN

Welcome Heather Jo! You are in the right place to have your TR done!! Dr. Berger and the Staff at Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center are the best.    Veronica

Nice to meet you Heather Jo. I wish you all the best.
ME-27
DH-21
DS-7
DD-4
TL-10/20/03
TR- shooting for March of 2008    Miranda

Hi, Heather! I hope that all goes well. We are all embarking on a wonderful journey! I am also new and am on the board looking for answers, comfort and support. Take Care,     Cora

Welcome to the board, Heather Jo! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Let me know if you need assistance with the scheduling process. Feel free to ask all the quetions you have….we are all family and the Tr sisters are great at answering questions or just making you feel welcomed.     Ericka Pamplin

Thank You for the warm welcomes. I am a little scared about the whole TR surgery. I know in my heart that I want more children. I know I’m not “done” yet. But being put under and the actual surgery scares me. I know it is worth it, and that’s why I try not to think about all that stuff. I already had my post op report sent to Dr Berger back in 2005, so this has been a couple years in the making for me. I hope to be on the post TR side of things by this time next year! Well again, THANK YOU and best wishes!    Heather Jo

It’s normal to be scared…I think we are all a little scared about the surgery and about what happens next. I’m more terrified of not conceiving than the actual surgery. I know that Dr. Berger and his staff will take excellent care of me. It’s what I have to do on my own that haunts me!!! Good luck,    Cora

Heather- I was scared about getting the TR done. Not just the surgery but everything that went with this major decision. But I am so glad that I did…I had my TR 11/19/07 and I just found out that we are pregnant! We couldn’t be more thrilled!    Jenn
TR-11/19/07
BFP-12/30/07

Congratulations. That means a lot to hear about someone having a BFP so soon after their TR. Please keep me updated! TR: March/April…I hope.    Cora

Heather Jo - Hi! My name is Jeannine. I live in Salem, OR and just had my TR last month. It was a great experience. Even my DH had nothing but good things to say about our trip, Dr. Berger and his staff and the whole surgical process. It is worth traveling across the country to do! Good luck with your journey.    Jeannine
TL 4-28-01
TR 11-16-07

It does help to hear about others having a great trip when they got their TR. I am hoping for one in March of 2008.    Miranda

CONGRATS ON BFP! Im so excited for you! I think I am going to lose my mind in this process. I know that I want this done but it seems like I’m trying to convince everyone else around me why I should. A lot of people think that it will be a big waste of money especially since I have had my tubes cut, tied, and burned. I’m sure that I’m not the only person who has had this done and that there are plenty of women who have gotten a BFP after reversing this type of TL. I’m going to plan on the end of this year for my TR. How do you send your reports to CH? What do I send exactly? You gals are great supporters by the way.   Patiently Waiting
ME-27
DH-34
DS-4
DS-3
TL-12/04

I went to the hospital where they did my TL and got a copy of what they did and then my mom faxed it over to CH. It is that easy. Some hospitals will fax it for you if you take and print out the CH release form and take it with you so they know where to send it. It does not take long before you hear back from them with where you stand. I hope this helps. I got the ok from CH. I am going to set my TR up for March 08. Hope to hear how things go with you.    Miranda

Dr. Berger’s staff is great about reviewing your records and getting back with you on your chances for success. They won’t tell you to go ahead with it if there’s no chance of a BFP.   Cora

Welcome Heather- you have made the best decision with Dr Berger. He is truly a blessing and a miracle worker. We are all for you. My surgery was quick- I was in and out of CHTRC in a matter of hours. Good luck with your upcoming marriage.   Melissa
Me: 38
TL: 10/97
TR: 1/12/06
BFP: 2/12/06
EDD: 10/25/06
DS, Brady, our miracle baby, born 10/21/06
8 pounds, 5.8 ounces
21 inches long

Thanks Miranda and Cora - you ladies have been a Godsend. I really appreciate it. I have 2 DS by my husband already but I don’t know why I stopped at 2, plus this PTLS is causing a lot of problems. I can’t wait to have this TR done.   Patiently Waiting

Patiently Waiting ~ I know what you mean…PTLS is cruel. I had said before that my husband keeps mentioning “how I used to be”…but I always strugged it off to him just being a man and us evolving. But, after hearing all the stories from other women, I am beginning to believe that I am suffering from it as well! I hope for a smooth surgery with lots of luck in March/April. I wish you all the best, too.   Cora

I have been wanting to have a TR for about 5 years now. I have 2 boys from a previous relationship and my husband has no children (well, he claims mine and treats them as his) I have talked about TR for years and my husband would never seem interested and then sometimes he would and I would get so frustrated with him thinking he just didn’t want kids with me. He finally started coming around and told me that he was scared and that he wanted to get financially stable before we had the surgery and tried to bring a new baby into the home. So, now I am closer than ever and our intentions are to schedule in March or April this year. I am working on my weight loss now as I have to lose 20 lbs to be under BMI for surgery. I know I can do it within the next 3-4 months and I am trying hard so I can have my TR and start TTC!!!!   Stephcave

Dr. Berger’s Comment

This excerpt is a good example of how women support and inform each other on the Tubal Reversal Message Board regardless of where they are from. Many women might feel they are alone in their desire to have another baby after a previous tubal ligation, but when they participate in the message board they realize that they are not alone at all.