My Journey to Tubal Reversal With Dr. Berger
July 3rd, 2009My Tubal Ligation – Then The Loss of My Son
My journey to Dr. Berger began on May 29, 2007, the day my youngest son, Jayden, was born. I knew in my heart I did not want my tubes tied, but because of 2 very life threatening pregnancies, we (me, my other half and doctor) decided it would be best to have a TL. But then life became all too real to me on July 30, 2007 when I lost my youngest son, only 2 months and 1 day after he was born. This picture of Jayden shows what a happy baby he was.
In the earliest part of my tubal reversal journey, I did not think I would want another baby, but as time passed, I did a lot of soul searching. When you lose a child, at any time in their life, a lot of guilt comes with your “new” life. Added to my guilt was that yearning, the desire of wanting another baby. It became painfully and almost obsessively clearer with time that having the TR would be such an important part of my healing journey.
I can never have my sweet Jayden back. He can never be replaced. He will always be my second born son, and will remain with me forever. But it would be such a blessing to have a chance of having another baby, and a piece of him… a gift from him… and a gift to him. He watches over his big brother, and if I ever were given the chance to have another baby, he will be able to have a younger sibling as well, another sibling to watch over and be proud of. I am extremely proud of both of my sons, and it is my every hope that Jayden will be excited about the idea of being an older sibling.
The Added Problem of PTLS
I would also like to say that, along with much emotional stress, my body physically went through a terrible amount of stress from the day I had the TL. I was constantly in pain, I suffered from what I believed to be PTLS, and though many people do not believe in it, I DO! I had more problems from the very day of the surgery that I never had, not one single day in my life, and I was searching for that relief as well.
How I Found Dr. Berger
It was amazing how I found Dr. Berger, and I was instantly drawn to him. I did what many people to and search around, mainly because my family made me… but I can not lie… when I saw Dr. Berger and his website, it was my own personal immediate decision: This is where I am going to go! Not a single doubt in my mind, I instantly knew it. The next part of my journey began, which was the financial issue, but a kiss in the wind was blown my way, and in February of 2009 I was able to schedule my surgery on May 21, 2009. Only 8 days before Jayden would have been 2. My oldest son had turned 3 only days before I scheduled my tubal reversal.
Submitted by Lisa R.
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Next Part of My Journey – Going to Chapel Hill will be published next as Part 2 of this blog topic.
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“An Angel, in the book of life, wrote down our baby’s birth. Then whispered as she closed the book, too beautiful for Earth.”
-Unknown Author (currently searching)
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
-Helen Keller
“It was written in the book before ever being born
Both heaven and earth would have to mourn.”
-ME
Susan is a 40 year old international patient who traveled from Dubai, United Arab Emirates (UAE) to Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center for tubal ligation reversal in December of 2008. Susan opted to not have her tubes untied in the UAE or the United Kingdom. Instead, Susan and her husband Stephen chose to travel to Chapel Hill, NC from the Middle East to have her tubal reversal by the reversal specialists of Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center. 
In January of 2009 I had the pleasure of working with Lisa and Marshal M.
In early 2009, 
I never thought I would ever want another child, at least not until I met Tanya. We were married on December 22, 2008 and she is the most wonderful woman in the world. We started looking into tubal reversal in September 2008. Tanya was late starting her period that month and the curiosity of a pregnancy got to both of us.
Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center
I had to work the day we were supposed to leave for North Carolina. I thought the day would never end. All of my coworkers knew I was having surgery and wouldn’t be back for a week. A few asked me questions, I tried not to think too much about the surgery because I was very nervous about it. My boss left halfway through the day to go pick up some things for the office. I was glad for the small break to mentally regroup to get through the rest of the day. 
Tubal ligation reversal
