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Posted by MHart74 (Member # 13295) on May 15, 2009 11:45 PM :
Good evening ladies
I have a feeling that when the day finally gets here, I'm going to be a blubbering mess. Did this happened to any of you during your consultation? As the time draws nearer, I find myself crying at the drop of a hat... and I just know I'm going to lose it (in a good way though )

Posted by debjim (Member # 8607) on May 16, 2009 07:06 AM :
I was that way right after the surgery, Dr B came in to talk to me when I woke up and I was a blubbering fool!

Posted by anniev6176 (Member # 11735) on May 16, 2009 07:35 AM :
I cried on the way to the facility, during the consultation, and during prep for surgery. Part of the problem was no caffeine, but this whole thing has been such an emotional roller coaster for me. I won't bore you with the long story of why I was crying, but the staff was very understanding and compassionate. You're not the only one!! Oh and by the way, since TR I don't think I've cried once! I'm on a much more even keel since then.

Posted by Tabatha C, MA (Member # 13701) on May 18, 2009 08:31 AM :
Hi ladies.
If you are a blubbering mess that's just fine we understand. You all will be just fine. This is a very big step and it wouldn't be normal not to be emotional. Good luck to all. We look forward to meeting those who have yet to visit us. Tabatha MA

Posted by Lyndi RN (Member # 13632) on May 18, 2009 12:36 PM :
We have lots of tissues on hand! This is certainly an emotional time for all women and surgery can be stress inducing and worrisome. All of us at the center understand that you may be a little tearful and we just want to do what ever we can to make you comfortable. Let us know if you have any questions and just tell us to pass the tissues when you need them! We look forward to meeting you!

Posted by NSwint (Member # 13735) on May 20, 2009 11:14 AM :
Hello This is my first time on here, but I really needed to talk to some people like myself those that want to have a baby! I am 35 yrs old and recently married. I had my tubes tied during my first marriage following the advice of my ex husband and now that we are not together. I was in a bad marriage and then I decided it wasn't worth it. My new husband doesn't have any children and he would like to have atleast one! But my tubes are tied I know that the long term we can provide for our child it's just coming up with the money for surgery! I filed bankruptcy this year so I can not get any financing yet I am lost and don't know what to do!! Any suggestions?

Posted by cruzgirl33 (Member # 11199) on May 20, 2009 12:04 PM :
As the days grow closer I am to finding my self a mess '' I have not been able to sleep much and the feeling are overwhelming '' I have found my self crying for no reason. And my D/H is so supportive '' I could not have ask for a better husband' I know that I will be a mess when I get there '' but it's all from Joy' that it is fainally here' After 7 years of wanting this to become a reality.
NSwint '' I am also 35 soon to be 36 in Sept. I remarried after a Bad Divorce to a man that has no children and it has been a long road to where we are '' it has been 7 year that we thought about it and it has been 2 year of paying on it '' I love the prepayment plan because you can pay little at a time as much as the monthly bills will allow and also tax time was a way the way we paid ours' Maria 35 (Florida)
D/H 40 (no kids)
D/D 19 + 1 grandson 3 soon to be 4 6/14
D/S 17
D/D 14

Posted by TulipGarden (Member # 13451) on May 20, 2009 07:14 PM :
Good, so I can get emotional and its ok! I can cry at the drop of a hat, and I just dont hold back. Or maybe that it's that I can't hold back.

Posted by Alexsmom34 (Member # 11839) on May 20, 2009 11:41 PM :
Cruzgirl33, I am also 35 will be 36 in September, which day...I had a Pomeroy TL in 1997 after the birth of my daughter, I was only 23, I should have never had it done. Jenn

Posted by TulipGarden (Member # 13451) on May 20, 2009 11:47 PM :
I am 35 also, 36 next december. I had my tubal in 2000. I have been married, three times. Not that I am proud of that. Two children with my first husband which are DD 16 going on 17 next month, DS 14, and with my second husband I have DD 8. My husband has three children. But we want to try for one more between the two of us.

Posted by LauraD, RN (Member # 13476) on May 21, 2009 08:04 AM :
Hi, I know that it is very emotional to go through a tubal reversal. So many of our patients have changed partners or just their minds about having another child. It is great to know that Dr. Berger and Dr. Monteith are able to help so many people! Best of Luck to All! Laura

Posted by cruzgirl33 (Member # 11199) on May 21, 2009 10:42 AM :
We have a lot in common ladies '' My birthday Sept 20, and I will be 36 '' I had told my husband that I wanted it done before 36 and it is finally here 8 days left for me '' I am so excited '' My baby is now 14 year old and she start her first year in High School(Going to the Nursing academy) it has been 14 years and 1 day shy of 4 months since I had my tubal ligation done '' Maria 35 (Florida)
D/H 40 (no kids)
D/D 19 + 1 grandson 3 soon to be 4 6/14
D/S 17
D/D 14

Posted by MHart74 (Member # 13295) on May 21, 2009 11:00 AM :
*whew* I'm so happy to know I'm not the only one feeling this influx of emotions all at once. We've been talking about the TR seriously for 2 years now, and we've finally got to the point that its coming to fruition. Yay! I find myself reading the boards (almost bordering on obsession) all the time and am continuously surprised and excited about my prospects after reading all the wonderful and inspirational stories of all the ladies that have gone through the same things as myself.
Here's a little background on me: Me:34 (soon to be 35)
DH:34 (2nd husband - no children)
DD:16
DS:14
DS:12 My TL was done immediately following the birth of my last son, almost 13 years ago (my first husband coerced me into it while in labor and giving birth to him). I think there should be a law in place.. something like 48 hour waiting period before making such a drastic decision. I've had PTLS symptoms from the very beginning but never attributed it to the TL until I started researching the TR.
Good luck to everyone! Sorry this was such an eyebleeding post

Posted by MHart74 (Member # 13295) on May 21, 2009 11:01 AM :
Oh, and my husband and I have been married for 8 years.

Posted by TulipGarden (Member # 13451) on May 21, 2009 07:39 PM :
Maria, when is your sons birthday? My Son will be 15 Nov 8th. My step-daughter will be 15 Nov 15th.

Posted by cruzgirl33 (Member # 11199) on May 22, 2009 09:57 AM :
Tulipgarden My Oldest is Jan 23, She will be 20'in 2010
My son B-DAY is Nov 30 he will be 18
My Daughther is Jan 30 she will be 15'in 2010
So when God Bless us with a new one it will be like starting over '''
Maria 35 (Florida)
D/H 40 (no kids)
D/D 19 + 1 grandson 3 soon to be 4 6/14
D/S 17
D/D 14

Posted by Tanya from VA (Member # 9507) on May 22, 2009 12:55 PM :
I was not emotional at all at CH. I was scared to death most of the time. The consult wasn't hard, Dr.Berger was very easy to talk to and answered any questions. The day of surgury I was the first one, so I was still pretty tired when we went in. The nurses were awesome, and before I knew it I was wheeled into the room and out like a light! Seemed like a minute later I was waking up and Dr.Berger came around and told me that everything looked great, went great and was optimistic! I didn't have a chance to get teary, he was off changing the next ladies life! Good thing - I'm not emotional by nature but I may have started crying when he told me that it went so well and had a great chance of conceiving again. Best of luck, and the nurses are so so sweet I'm sure they have boxes of tissues for all us weepy gals!

Posted by motherbug (Member # 13762) on June 03, 2009 12:32 PM :
Hello! I am also new to this board. I am 38 years old, birthday is September 19th! I have 14 year old son, 11 year old son, and 9 year old daughter. I am still married to the same wonderful husband, and when my last was born I was so sure that I was done (had the boys and a girl...you know things seemed complete) but, I have been regretting the TL since about a year after I had it done. I am finally in a position financially to have a tr, but I am brand spanking new to the process. I have just sent over my medical history and that alone made me emotional...I can just imagine what this will be like! But, I am glad I am not the only 30 something who wants another baby! Nice to meet everyone!

Posted by Coloradomom (Member # 13325) on June 03, 2009 12:45 PM :
motherbug, I am in the same boat as you. i am still married to my DH for 14 yrs. We have a DD and DS. 11 & 8. I am 38. 39 next month and just got the reversal with Dr. M, on 4/23/09. I wish you the best of luck. We had another board going with OMC (old married couples). I will try to find it and revive it.
Rene

Posted by motherbug (Member # 13762) on June 03, 2009 01:09 PM :
Rene,
LOL - I am an old married person for sure! LOL! We have been married 15 years...so, I would love to post on that board! It is so nice to finally find a place where I can fit in, and not have so many negative remarks like "oh, you are just getting old and experiencing early premenopausal blues" oooh, that makes me so mad to here!! But, I can't believe how many 35 and older woman are here! Wow, this is awesome. We really don't shrivel up and croak at 35 do we??? LOL!

Posted by Tawnee1972 (Member # 11007) on June 03, 2009 01:30 PM :
I was extremely emotional during surgery. It was a happy emotion though...as though I were making things "right" for myself. NSwint - I had my Reversal surgery July 21st. I am currently 6 1/2 months pregnant with a baby boy. The way that I was able to pay for it was with my company Flexible spending account. See if your company offers the same thing. The other option is the payment plan that Chapel Hill offers. A lot of people go that route. Good luck to you...our journey's sound about the same. Tawnee
Me: 37
DH: 35
DS: 17
DD: 14
TL: 10/14/1997 - Fallope Rings
TR: 07/21/2008 - R 6.0 / L 5.0

Posted by TulipGarden (Member # 13451) on June 03, 2009 09:16 PM :
I am an emotional person that has no problem expressing it, unfortunately. I wasnt sure how I would feel at the consultation, and I dont put it past me to cry tomorrow. I did not get emotional during the consult today. I felt comfortable and at ease. Everyone is so nice. My DH had me laughing so hard that I was afraid the staff was going to think we were crazy. I think, though, the more nervous I am about something then the sillier I get.

Posted by momof2n2 (Member # 13781) on June 10, 2009 08:03 AM :
Motherbug and Coloradomom... another OMC here! We've been married 12 years and have four amazing blessings. The day after my youngest was born I had my TL... and I have been pretty much crying ever since. I don't know what we were thinking!! I came up with the idea and DH and I prayed and prayed about it and came away with thinking it was a good idea. WRONG. Anyway - I am headed down 7/7 for TR. My friend is coming with me. DH is staying home with our kids AND watching her kids as well, during the day. Oh - I am 37 and had Pomeroy. ME - 37
DH - 39
DS #1 - almost 9
DS #2 - almost 7
DD #1 - almost 5
DD #2 - 3

Posted by Coloradomom (Member # 13325) on June 10, 2009 09:53 AM :
momof2n2, Good luck to you. My friend went with me also and my DH stayed home to watch the kids. I also found myself thinking: I wonder why we felt it was necessary to do something so permanent. I am so thankful I have been able to reverse my TL.
Rene

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