Momzilla is actually Tracy. She is a 43 year-old married, mother of three and is employed as a Senior Human Resource Manager. Tracy is married to Glenn who is a Transactional Real Estate and Business Attorney.
Tracy is currently four months out from her tubal ligation reversal surgery and both she and her husband describe her recovery.
In their own words….
Tracy
“Just weeks after my reversal the first thing I noticed was that I had lost the overwhelming sense of dread that had been shadowing me. As I was still healing from the surgery I was less fatigued and more energetic. My mood and outlook were “lighter”. My emotional healing began quickly and the physical healing soon followed. As the weeks passed I noticed improvement in my hair, skin and nails. I was sleeping again and my fogginess and inability to concentrate improved. I have not had a PMS headache, dizziness or tingling in my extremities. Each menstrual cycle since the reversal has gotten progressively better and more “normal”. My exaggerated and prolonged PMS symptoms have diminished. At about 6 weeks post reversal I got my libido back and, for that, my husband is eternally grateful (LOL!). I was no longer feeling like a stranger in my own body. Aside, of course, from getting my health back, the best part of my recovery has been re-connecting with my family. I feel like I have gone from the evil “Momzilla”, tired, moody and short-tempered all the time to just plain “Mommy” again. I feel at ease again in my own skin and with life. I no longer wake up dreading what symptom might take control of me. Shortly after the surgery, Glenn said to me “Welcome back, I missed you…”. In good times and in bad, he and I have always “loved” each other, but, for the duration of time that PTLS held me hostage, we “lost” our connection to each other. After the reversal, along with my obvious physical healing came the healing of my marriage and my family. It still amazes me that, after 3 years of suffering, I could see relief from my symptoms so quickly. I hope, through this series of blogs, that more women and their families as well as their physicians can be educated about PTLS and know that a reversal can bring them new hope for restoring their health and their lives.”
Glenn
Aside from the symptoms, the tragedy of PTLS is that we could have ended up divorced if Tracy didn’t have an inquisitive mind and, after almost three years, discovered PTLS online. From my viewpoint, PTLS transformed my best friend and wife into a detached unaffectionate roommate. Since the medical community did not recognize the possible effect of the tubal ligation procedure, we did marriage counseling which, of course, was unhelpful at best and could not succeed since the cause of the problem was biological. With no other explanation available from medical “experts”, we went through a series of episodes of “blame” with pop-psychology reasons to explain disinterest, depression and other symptoms that we didn’t know were symptoms. I received some truly bad advice from well-meaning sources. Symptoms like memory loss also put a strain on day-to-day living. In the end, we made it through because we started with love, a strong relationship and mutual respect. I have to wonder how many marriages have ended without ever knowing the reason?
I hope that the data compiled by the A Personal Choice can be used to provide proof to the medical community of this syndrome because it could help so many families if doctors provided pre-tubal ligation counseling and recognized this a possible cause of common symptoms experienced by women.
Aside from the symptoms, the tragedy of PTLS is that we could have ended up divorced if Tracy didn’t have an inquisitive mind and, after almost three years, discovered PTLS online. From my viewpoint, PTLS transformed my best friend and wife into a detached unaffectionate roommate. Since the medical community did not recognize the possible effect of the tubal ligation procedure, we did marriage counseling which, of course, was unhelpful at best and could not succeed since the cause of the problem was biological. With no other explanation available from medical “experts”, we went through a series of episodes of “blame” with pop-psychology reasons to explain disinterest, depression and other symptoms that we didn’t know were symptoms. I received some truly bad advice from well-meaning sources. Symptoms like memory loss also put a strain on day-to-day living. In the end, we made it through because we started with love, a strong relationship and mutual respect. I have to wonder how many marriages have ended without ever knowing the reason?This is the eighth article in our fourteen part series on PTLS and associated medical conditions. The first article of this series, Pain After Tubes Tied: A Symptom of Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome?, discusses the most common symptoms associated with PTLS.
Our next several articles will present stories of our patients who have sufferred from worsening menstrual, physical, and emmotional symptoms after surgical sterilization procedures ( women who had their tubes tied).
Readers can also view other patient submitted stories about their menstrual symptoms, reasons for reversing tubal ligation, and outcomes after reversal reversal surgery. Each patient’s story is listed below:
